Warning this post may offend people

Ive been debating for days on wither to post this or not,and I know it will offend people which it is not intended to do, but when I staed this blog I swore I would be honest and show all sides of Aspergers, no holds barred. Which I believe I have done up till now, I asked Dannie if it was ok in her mind to write this one and she is quite happy and oblivious to any harm from it. So here goes, I suppose to me one of the hardest things to deal with when dealing with Aspergers is the constant innocent comments that offend others and gets blurted out at the most inconvenient times. I have had many 'Encounters' shall we say with others over Dannie's innocently said but brutal comments about others. It's a hard subject to talk freely about because parents and others are so embarrassed by their child's comments that they would rather forget them and I don't know maybe pretend it was never said. It certainly isn't discussed freely. Sorry I'm babbling, back to the point. Well those of you who have Aspergers in the family will be aware of words, sayings and songs which get repeated over and over sometimes for months until the next word or phrase comes along. Well at the moment Dannies song choice which she is repeating over and over is a few lines from the song banana boat, you know the one, Day-O, Day-O, Daylight come and we wanna go home. Nothing wrong with that I hear you say, WRONG, as we all have done at some point or other Dannie has got the words wrong and when she sings the next verse she sings, wait for it, I apologise in advance, Come Mr Taliban, Tally your Banannas. As you can imagine such a thing being sung outside, at full pelt, would and does NOT go down well. I have had to ban Dannie from singing it and she really doesn't understand why. Even banning her from singing it is hard to keep up as it just blurts out, out of the blue and she said she can't help it as the song is stuck in her head. She got so upset I had to try and explain, the best way I found to explain it was that it was like sneezing, you can't stop it from happening it just happens, and sometimes due to the Aspergers, I explained that sometimes she verbally sneezes, but the verbal words can offend others, another example would be when a friend asked her does her bum look big in an outfit, Dannies answer was " Depends, if you are comparing it to a rhino then no." needless to say they fell out. That judgement we have that stops us from saying what we think? Aspergers people have a lack of but why should we judge them for saying what we all think but are to polite or afraid to say? Should we really be scolding our kids for being honest and saying exactly what they see? I'm in two minds, but I have asked Dannie that if she feels she is about to verbally sneeze her song, she has to cover her mouth and try her best to refrain. Not because I take offence of her innocent song choice, but purely for the sake of others, is that truly fair?

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Dannie's quote of the day

I suppose this subject is one that every parent in the world dreads, Talking to strangers.
I can honestly say this is one of the hardest things I have had to try and explain to Dannie.
A perfect example is when Dannie first started speaking to anyone and everyone, actually she still does. But in this particular incident we were on a bus home and I was starting to tell Dannie how dangerous speaking to strangers would be, I told her what every parent does that they may take you away and that I may never see her again which to me was a frightening enough way to make it very clear that some strangers are dangerous.
Dannie's answer was " what is a stranger" and I replied that it was someone you didn't know. Dannie being Dannie asked "how do I know if I know them" the conversation was getting intense and if I'm honest rather confusing so made it as simple as I could and told her. "if you don't know their name then they are a stranger" simple enough to understand I hear you say, well, this is Dannie so she did no more than to turn round to a lady sitting behind us on the bus and proceeded to ask the lady"what is your name" The lady was quite taken aback by the sudden conversation so the lady asked Dannie "why would you need to know such a thing" and Dannies answer as I'm sure you have all worked out by now was " well if I know your name then your not a stranger anymore.
How do you answer that?